Amor Fati (Love Your Fate)

Fate is inexorable, fate is immovable” – popularized by Bernard Cornwell

Some mornings I wake up dreaming of abalone shells, their ocean blue outer skin revealing eternity within, there once was so many, my younger self could pick one up off any West Coast beach and bring it home. Its shimmering iridescence inside evoking childhood summer holidays, a magical Harry Potter-like talisman capable of taking me back to those sandy shores each time I held one in my hand. They can only be found in galleries and museums now, creating a longing within for the ones I let go…

In this place and time, I can honestly say, I love my fate. There are people, places and a more youthful energy that I miss but I’m forever grateful to have been able to collect those rare shells, remember a warm Barcelona night sitting in the soft dusk anticipating a delicious meal and playing in what us kids coined, the haunted soccer field in the Black Forest of West Germany, the scent of lemon trees in Cyprus another layer of memory to contemplate. An unwinding fate that has led to this moment in time, an Arabic language rising and falling nearby as I sit writing at an outside table at our corner coffee bar, with a refreshing ice chocolate, breathing in summer, thankful for the occasional soft breeze.

Each generation finds their own magical touchstones and talismans to mark their fates, they come in many forms – a beloved book, a soaring summer anthem or the still point between lakeshore and forest, free will and choice their constant companions. Sometimes, it’s hard to love our fate if we aren’t feeling well, if we’ve suffered a loss so terrible we think we might not survive, some of us may not have shelter or enough food to eat, we may even have had to leave our homelands.

In this ebb and flow that informs our unique lives, I hope we can all live lives of meaning in between words, the notes of exquisite music and nature’s healing touch. Fate is ever-changing, it unfolds, full of surprises, starting with our first steps out the door – will we go left or right? As we make our way, we might find ourselves changing someone else’s inexorable fate, often with just a smile or a kind word, we may even purchase a hot drink for the soul we come across huddled against the rain. Love your fate and if you can, change someone else’s!

The stunning new roof garden at the downtown Vancouver Public Library (Vancouver, B.C.). Its architectural envelope reminiscent of the coliseum in Rome.

When the coliseum in Rome was built centuries ago, no one imagined a future where its likeness would be sitting in the centre of a bright, modern city!

I found myself taking these shots after wandering through a quirky summer exhibit, I’m glad I turned left as I exited my building on that sunny day!

This post was inspired by a heartwarming write-up by a local writer and musician, Grant Lawrence. His article can be found at:


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27 Responses to Amor Fati (Love Your Fate)

  1. Tranature - quiet moments in nature says:

    A lovely post Kim and thank you so much for sharing the inspirational story of Russell Letawsky too! 🙂💖 xxx

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  2. Shirley Ross says:

    Fate is full of interest, bewilderment and love. I remember the Black Forest, and the time your dear brother picked up a viper with a stick put it in his lunch and brought it to Show and Tell for school, as he forgot to bring something. Loved Cyprus, the blending of cultures, the food and love, and the beauty. We were so lucky to have traveled and met such wonderful people, learned from them as best we could. Thanks for tripping your Mom down memory lane.
    With love.

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    • Travel is the university of life and I love the memories that we collected as a family…fishing with beloved friends in Lahr, Germany, wishing we could stay longer underneath the Tree of Idleness in Cyprus and our own recent getaway to the sleepy village of Steveston, British Columbia to munch on halibut and chips whilst drinking ginger beer! I’m glad you enjoyed the read, Mom. X


  3. cindy knoke says:

    I remember, as a kid, abalones being so common in the tide pools, we never touched them. Same with lobsters.

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  4. calmkate says:

    a soothing and wise post Kim, love your collection of memories which triggered many of mine … thanks for that!

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  5. Jade M. Wong says:

    Your description of the abalone shell as a Harry Potter-like talisman made me envision them as a special kind of pensieve-portkey combination—a seemingly ordinary object that when touched, transports the person to a specific memory that the object is associated with.

    I really liked reading your exploration of fate, what it could be defined as, and how hard it can be sometimes to accept it. I especially liked reading your thoughts on talismans and it made me think about how there have been so many magical moments and talismans that we’ve experienced and held on to over the years to help us when life gets a little rough. This was a compelling post, Kim!

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    • Whenever I write something that reminds me of Harry Potter, I think of you (& September 1st is just around the corner!). Your lovely words have made my day, Jade, you’re a beautiful writer!

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      • Jade M. Wong says:

        Aww I feel the same about you and your writing, Kim! Your descriptions are always so vivid and real enough that I feel like I’m there experiencing your posts with you! The mutual love of Harry Potter is just an added delight ^_^

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  6. markmkane says:

    Loved this Kimberlee. But the one line that really stuck with me was the line, “In this place and
    time, I can honestly say, I love my fate.” That just truly resonated with me. Just love your posts, there’s always something that makes me take a deep introspection into my life.

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    • I love it when something I’ve written resonates with someone, there are words and posts of others that do the same for me, some not only enhance my life but have the ability to change it! I always look forward to your lovely and very thoughtful comments, Mark.

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  7. This has risen to be one of my favorites of your posts, Kim. Perhaps it’s just my mood, reminiscing lately, feeling grateful and reflective. How beautiful to have lived such a life full of sensory richness. We only get this one short span of years, something that I often forget while dwelling on obstacles and schedules. And yet everyday is replete with amazing beauty. Thanks for the lovely post and smile. ❤

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  8. ellie894 says:

    Such a calming peaceful read, as lovely this third time around as the first. I feel as though I’ve traveled the globe with you on a summer evening and perhaps finding a shell of my own to take home with me. What a treasure the Vancouver library is. Love your fate…wise words indeed. 🌷

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  9. Robin says:

    Beautiful post, Kim. 🙂

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  10. Quirky Girl says:

    Beautiful and enchanting words, as always. 🙂

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  11. Beautiful – I love the way you began with the dreaming of abalone shells and the way you went on to meditate on fate. Gorgeous.

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